“I actually liked having to get along with people I didn’t particularly care for and finding ways to work together. Because in the army it can’t be all about me, it has to be about we.” –Emma, The Merciful Scar, p. 209
I had an “Aha!” moment when I read this sentence. Something about the way it’s worded really appeals to me.
Why? It challenges me.
Getting along with all people all the time is difficult, perhaps impossible. Yet this is what God commands us to do, Jesus prayed for us to do, and we, in fact, must do, if we’re to glorify God through His church.
My favorite way of getting along with people who test me, however, is to avoid them. I let them do their thing while I do mine. I pray for them from a distance and figure that’s the best that the situation can be.
I find a sadness in this, though. Emma, the character who made the above statement, is talking about getting along with people she doesn’t really care for. Truthfully, there aren’t too many people I don’t really care for. I may be quiet, but I adore people. I find them fascinating. I want to learn their stories and invite them to know mine. I want to listen to them, pray for them, encourage them, and share joyous discoveries to build them up in Christ. I like being a friend.
The people I try to avoid, therefore, are the ones who’ve made it clear (at least from my point of view) that they don’t care for me. In a sense, I figure I’m doing them a favor, while protecting myself from the pain of rejection.
Yet I sense defeat in this.
First, I have to set aside the assumption that the other person doesn’t like me. I have to ignore and overcome my insecurities. This has to be my choice.
Second, I have to identify the mission and keep my mind on that. If God has given me something to do and people to do it with, completing the task is the most important thing. I must get to work.
I stumbled across a few Bible verses this morning that added to my thoughts on this getting-along subject:
In Philippians 1, Paul addresses the issue of motive. There is a concern that some people are preaching the Gospel for selfish reasons. Paul says, “But what does it matter? The important thing is that in every way, whether from false motives or true, Christ is preached. And because of this I rejoice. Yes, and I will continue to rejoice” (verse 18).
If we’re working together to build God’s Kingdom, we’re not sitting around analyzing each other’s reasons for doing so. Only God can accurately judge what’s in another person’s heart. We can and must let go of this concern, work together, and rejoice when God’s Spirit brings results. (This is true even if our own motives are off. We continue to do the work, and trust God to fix our hearts.)
In 1 Corinthians 3, Paul addresses the issue of credit for work done. There is a concern about the wrong people getting credit for conversions and baptisms. Paul says it doesn’t matter who gets the credit, so long as the work gets done. Verse 9 says, “For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building.” God is building His Kingdom; ultimately it’s His work. We’re privileged to take part in it. We’re working together for God’s glory and His creation’s good.
Father, thank You for Emma’s insight. Help us all accept the challenge to find ways to work together—whether or not we naturally get along. We’re working for Your glory, for the honor of Your name. Achieving the objective isn’t about us. It’s about You. Please give us willing hearts and wisdom to accomplish Your purpose. Amen.